An open letter to David Cameron and Nick Clegg

I was so excited to hear that you are taking such a pro-active approach to fix “Broken Britain”, especially seeing as you want to make children spend time with their absent parents. I wish you could hear the sarcasm in voice because that is by far the stupidest idea I have ever heard. Let me explain the harsh simple truth behind this problem- most of these “absent parents” are absent for a reason, because their kids don’t want to see them. For most people it has nothing to do with denying access, sure it happens, but if you ask most of these children why they don’t see the other parent, it boils down to not wanting to see them. And now you want to force children like my daughter to spend “quality time” with someone they hate. Nice one.

When I broke the news to my 11 year old daughter that there may come a time that she would have to see her father again, she broke down in tears. After years of attempting to have a relationship with him, she gave up. She stopped phoning him and asking to go round because she was tired of chasing after him. That child tried her best to maintain contact and it broke her heart when the effort wasn’t returned. I’m not the only parent in this situation. I know children who have never seen their fathers because they walked out on the pregnant mother. So far it hasn’t caused them any harm. Are you expecting them to start playing happy families?

The idea of forcing this type of contact onto people is unrealistic and damaging. But you are the big bad government so what does it matter? You throw this down, everyone has to jump. But if you want to do something useful, how about forcing these absent parents to pay their maintenance? My ex-partner owes me over £17k in child support. If you want to force anything onto parents, try starting there. In fact, how about you pay the bill for child support and then take it off the offending parent as some sort of tax? That would be more useful to me than having to endure tears and emotional trauma of forced visits.

Yours truly

One pissed off mother

*this letter was sent to them a year ago, still no reply from Number 10

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